It happened again, didn’t it?
You got up yesterday morning thinking, this is the day. This is the day you’re going to break ground and gain momentum on that long list of goals you have.
But that evening you went to bed exhausted, discouraged and no further along on that to-do list you’ve been chewing away at for the past 6 months,
And it’s okay. It happens to the best of us. The question now is how to get moving!
Luckily, you’ve got Einstein (and me) to help you out.
Quote #1: Einstein’s famous quote on the definition of insanity – doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results – is a great place to start.
Before you can change you’ve got to know what you’re doing out of habit. Our habits tell us exactly what we’re going to do when faced with a challenge. As an example let’s look at the dreaded ‘to do’ list.
Gather up your list for the last 30 days.
Next write down your goals.
Now for every task you’ve crossed off place it under one of your goals.
So what do you notice? Are you doing what’s easy or what’s most comfortable? How many of the tasks you’ve completed will get you to your big goal or removed a roadblock that keeps you from getting closer to your big goal?
What’s been accomplished tells a story. What’s your story?
Quote #2: Imagination is more important than knowledge.
You know as I sit here writing this post that statement seems so simple and logical. But I can tell you from first hand experience the ability to imagine a different outcome when your mind chatter says there’s no way out is tough.
It’s hard to look inside and reflect on what you’ve done and face the fact that you’ve potentially run out of options and need help jump starting your imagination. As I mentioned in my last post asking for help in order to take care of yourself is REALLY HARD and nearly impossible without help.
Quote #3: Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree it will live its whole life thinking it’s stupid.
O.K. Stupid may be a bit harsh but the fact is if we don’t understand our own unique capabilities. Then fully embrace the idea that they are powerful and valuable. If you don’t then there’s no way you can leverage them to unleash the genius within.
When I first started as a coach I designed a system that starts with the question “what am I really good doing?” and then the next question that comes up is “how do I use my skills, talents and gifts more effectively?”
Once you can answer these questions then you can begin leveraging your efforts.
Intellectually, we know we can do better but knowing better and doing better are two different things. Everything you need to be successful really is at your fingertips. You get stuck because you’re afraid of making a mistake or disappointing someone or failing.
There’s an old joke about a man with a dog that wouldn’t get off a nail. Every day the dog howled and howled from the pain caused by sitting on the nail. A stranger ask the owner of the dog “so why doesn’t he get up?” The dog’s owner replied “apparently it doesn’t hurt him enough.”
It really easy to get comfortable with settling and telling yourself I’ll get to it tomorrow. In every role I’ve had… executive, HR professional, leader and coach … there’s one thing to always keep in site. Until someone is ready to get up off that nail there’s nothing you can do or say to help them.
Isn’t it time for you got off that nail?